As this is a controversial topic and includes questions such as “What is success?” and “Who determines success?” let me clarify. Your success and achievements are not based on what society thinks, but on what you think.

You are not only successful if your name is mentioned in a few articles, if you receive recognition or awards, or if you are presenting at training institutions. Remember the words of Robin Banks, “Everything I need is within me now.”

Hopefully, by reading this article, you will begin to answer these questions for yourself:

• Am I living a life of significance and success, or am I living a life chosen for me by circumstance or society?
• Am I being true to myself, by am I holding myself back?

What is Your Purpose?

Mark Twain said, “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

If this is a question you ask yourself, I encourage you to take the time to ponder it deeply. Forget for one second about the “how” and simply think about the “why.”

For assistants this might be a new concept, as in our profession we pride ourselves on being one step ahead of most things at all times. However, it is only when can understand the purpose of our lives that we can build toward that purpose and our own definition of success.

Where Are You Right Now? Comfort Zone or Destination?

What seems like eons ago, my career was handed to me. I did not choose to become a receptionist and grow to be a personal assistant; it simply happened. Looking back, it was probably the best “universe” intervention in my life. I am proud to announce that given the decision today to choose a career I would, with pride, choose to be an Executive Assistant/Personal Assistant.

But there is some hesitation as I write this. Is there more to this? Have I reached my purpose? How can I evolve if I have not? What does MY excellence look like? This can be answered from two perspectives.

First, if I look from my “comfort zone” position, I have reached the pinnacle and the purpose of my career. I am a successful PA reporting to the CEO of a large Corporate Company. I earn a good salary and I am passionate about my work and what I do. I won the OPSA / REXEL National PA of the Year Award. I am respected by my peers and colleagues alike. I am honored that some of my articles have been published. I am happily married with the most amazing son. Taking all into consideration, I should be comfortable and content.

Then, there is a voice on the other side of my comfort zone getting louder as time moves on. A voice that is beckoning, calling me to my purpose. It is encouraging me to break the boundaries of my comfort zone and move on with my journey. It is reminding me of the fire that burns within. A fire that I ignited and is now fueled by the network of incredible PAs surrounding me, with whom I share and learn. It reminds me of my purpose and calls me to continue the journey of growth.

This is where courage is needed. This is where most people come up with “But…” and give numerous reasons as to why the time or the situation is not yet right. This is where the fledgling either finds her wings to soar or burrows back into the comfort of her nest.

What Is Your Future?

If you’re feeling discontented, do you use your job as an EA or PA as a stepping stone for another career choice? Not necessarily. It may simply mean you need to challenge where you are now and think more about your “why.”

If you’re like me, and this resonates with you, then it is time to strengthen your wings and allow others to see the amazing potential that you possess. It is each EA/PA’s responsibility to be the best they can be, and in doing so, help others to fly.

So, how do we develop our own wings?

• It will take a decision that you need to make for yourself, on whether you have reached your purpose or whether you need to move towards it.
• It will take maturity to move beyond negativity.
• It will take courage that you will find in yourself and in your network of EA/PAs. Surround yourself with a network of courageous peers. Be brave enough to see the strength you have within yourself.
• It will take guts to push through, regardless of circumstances, fear, or hesitation. Never accept defeat or give up.
• It will take determination that you will also see in those that have gone before you.
• It will take belief you will discover within yourself.
• It will take trust in those that have a vested interest in your success.
• It will take the knowledge that you may fall, but you will not get up again.
• It will take ownership of your own life and your own decisions.
• But most of all, it will take the burning desire to FLY. To soar and constantly develop yourself. Discover your wings and be the light that others may follow.

Do not dare to deny the world the privilege of witnessing your story. To build from where you left off. To be inspired by your actions. To follow where you FLY.

About The Author: Joanie Nel is the Personal Assistant to the Chief Executive Officer of Samancor Chrome. Her career started in 1996 as a Departmental Secretary and Receptionist and her passion for the profession has grown ever since. Through continued development, mentoring, and a drive to enhance and improve herself she has held various positions in corporate organizations.

This article has been edited and condensed for length and clarity. It was originally published in Executive Secretary Magazine.